I have recently read that people have finally just given up on learning the difference between who and whom. Lazy, lazy, lazy! What is this language coming to, asks this grammar hawk! It appears that it is now semi-OK to just use who and not worry about it anymore. For example: Who are you going with?
It isn’t hard at all to figure out which to use: who or whom.
Here it is, easy as pie!
Substitute he and him. If he works, use who. If him works, use whom. Easy to remember because both him and whom end with m. If it is a question, you will have to turn it into a statement or answer the question.
Who/whom are you going with? I am going with him. So, use whom!
Do you know who/whom is standing there? He is standing there. Use who.
I know who/whom you are talking about. You are talking about him. Use whom.
You will never have to wonder whether to use who or whom again. I think they all gave up much too soon!